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For us socially-challenged networkers …

Just because we are not naturally social doesn’t mean that we can’t see the value of a network marketing check.

So for us less-than-outgoing networkers, here are some links to make it easier to network.

1. – “Do You Struggle to Make Conversation? A Menu of Options for Small Talk.”

2. – “How to tell if you are boring.”

Anyone can learn to be a better communicator. For some of us it takes longer, but it can be done.

Personal responsibility. A forgotten skill.

My friend, Barrett Matthews, is one of the most motivated people I know. What I like about Barrett is that he takes personal responsibility to the extreme. In his book, “Why Didn’t You Get It Done?”, he certainly did not hold back.

I am not much of a reader of motivational books, but I like the conversational style and the “in your face” dialogue in Barrett’s book. I don’t think I would ever use an excuse around him.

If you haven’t read his book, here is the Amazon link:

Even if you don’t buy his book, at least read the free preview on Amazon. You will definitely appreciate how and why we should take personal responsibility for our lives. While I have not tried this personally, I think I would force an unmotivated teenager to read this book. This would be a great time for that teenager to change his or her life.

I will be doing an interview with Barrett in August. If you would like to listen in, let us know here and I will be happy to forward you the details.

Strange weather, strange reactions.

I’ve done workshops in a lot of cold places.

Workshops in Scandinavia, the UK, Canada, etc … and you know what? In a lot of those workshops, 200-400 distributors came to learn, despite the winter conditions.

But at the same time, other distributors stayed at home because of the “weather.” Too cold, too dark, it might snow … and the excuses go on and on.

The distributors who came to the workshops, and the distributors who didn’t come to the workshops … both had the same weather. And that is the first real lesson I learned in network marketing over 40 years ago.

The circumstances are the same for everyone. We just choose how we are going to react to those circumstances.

More reasons you’ll have difficulty motivating your new distributors.

Maybe I should have titled this blog, “Clueless new distributors and the decisions they make.” That might have been more accurate.

You see, most of us network marketing leaders work hard, really hard, trying to get our new distributors to “see what we see.” We know that once they have our vision, nothing will stand in their way. There is only one problem.

The typical new distributor or prospect thinks totally different than a network marketing leader. Why? Because network marketing leaders have been exposed to new ideas, new proof, and new standards and principles for living. Want proof?

Example 1:

Your new distributor joins with enthusiasm. The next day he opens his distributor kit, organizes the materials, and sets a date in his new organizer to read what’s in his kit. One week later after reviewing his kit, he decides that the brochures aren’t aggressive enough for proper marketing. Over the next few weeks your new distributor re-writes, re-formats, and micro-designs some new brochures. Once that task is accomplished, he stops.

That’s right. He stops. He has invested weeks of time, money, and energy in his business and will now wait to see if this investment will pay off.

Example 2:

Your new distributor lectures you on how to develop better prospecting materials. To prove his point, he designs the “killer” prospecting postcard in two colors. It looks great. After mailing out 500 postcards, two people join his business. Why? Because they were impressed by his “killer” two-color postcard.

What happens to his new recruits when they receive a “killer” three-color postcard in the mail? They jump to that program because the prospecting materials are even more professional. And they jump to the four-color postcard program, and to the four-color postcard plus letter program, and to the four-color postcard plus letter plus audio CD program …

I could give more examples, but I think we see the point. Distributors think differently … and that’s why they are still distributors … and not leaders.

So, who do we blame? Do we blame the distributor? Do we say to him:

“You don’t know what you need to know to be a leader. Figure it out quick!”

Sounds a bit presumptuous on our part, doesn’t it?

Well, if we can’t blame the new distributor for not knowing what to know, who is left in this relationship?


It is our responsibility as leaders to teach our distributors what they don’t know. We must teach them the principles of leadership. We must teach them what to think and how to think as a leader. There is no other way to get there.

We must teach our new distributors:

* To handle problems.
* How to position themselves when talking to prospects.
* How to focus their time on developing leaders instead of maintaining distributors.
* How to influence distributors.
* How to change distributors’ beliefs.
* How to understand the relationship between skills and motivation.
* How to create motivation.
* The three reasons prospects join, etc.

There is so much to teach, and so little time to master all these skills.

I often ask networkers the following question: “When you visit with your new distributors, what skills do you concentrate on teaching them?”

The usual answer is, “Huh?”

Scary, isn’t it? We have a whole bunch of networkers out there who don’t have a clue about what they should be teaching their new distributors so that they develop into leaders.


Personally, when I’m visiting with a distributor, I try to pass along insights on at least one of the 25 skills that I want to teach them. I know that first:

1. They’ll learn the skill intellectually.
2. Then they’ll see it in use in their own experience.
3. Later, they will understand the skill.
4. And finally, they will start using the skill automatically in their lives.

This takes time.

That’s why when people ask me which 25 skills I teach, I say, “It doesn’t matter.” Listing or even knowing the skills intellectually is useless. It takes time to assimilate and thoroughly understand how to use the skills.

For example, at most of my workshops, I spend almost the entire three hours on just one skill. And the attendees really “don’t get it” until a week or so after they leave. Sure they know the skill, but only after they have verified it through their own observation and experience will it become useful.

What do I recommend to these would-be leaders asking for advice on what to teach?

I recommend that they write down all the problems they encounter with their distributors. Then, create some skills, some ways of thinking, that would counteract these problems. And that’s what they should teach their distributors.

So I wonder, how do some networkers build leaders?

Well, when they visit with their distributors, they just … visit.

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Getting a “yes” decision first makes sense. Why would we even want to present our business or products unless our prospects wanted them first? Now our prospects will love every detail of our presentation.

No stress. No rejection. And a lot more fun.

How to get “inside” your prospects’ minds.

Ask great questions and then wait for your prospects to really think about the consequences.

Don’t break the silence. Allow your prospects to develop their own internal motivation from these questions. Here are a few good questions to ask your network marketing prospects:

  • Who do you think really cares how much is in your savings account 10 years from now?
  • How long will you receive a salary after you leave your job? Will your company still benefit from your work after you leave?
  • If you wanted to stay home with your family, have you thought of other ways to get regular paychecks?
  • Wouldn’t it be nice to have an extra monthly check that covers all your car payments?

Why we ruin 3 out of 4 prospects.

There are four different personality types:

1. Yellow
2. Blue
3. Red
4. Green

Each personality type sees the world differently. That means we have to talk to each of the personality types differently.

You are one personality type. It is easy for you to talk to others who have the same personality type, but you instantly ruin the prospects who aren’t like you.

Here is the payoff. If you can learn how to talk to the other three personality types, you would sell or enroll four times as many people! So this skill is worth learning.

If you want to learn more about the four color personalities, check out the book or audio here:

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What not to say to prospects.

“I’m trying this business. Hope I will do well. Do you want to join?”

Okay, that’s not exactly what we say, but that may be what our prospect hears.

Most prospects are followers. They don’t want to follow someone who is not committed to getting to their destination. They don’t want to waste their time following someone who is going to turn back.

We must assure our prospect that we will do whatever it takes to get to our destination. That will make the decision to follow us easier for our prospect.

What to say to prospects.

“There are two types of people in the world. Those that are open-minded and looking for opportunity, and those that are closed-minded and willing to accept whatever their boss will give them.”

This statement will help open up your prospect’s mind, so your prospect can lean forward, and look for reasons why your opportunity will work for him.

So, how mean can your relatives be?

So how mean can your relatives be? Mean. Real mean.

And depressing, negative, and small-minded.

That’s why my friend, Bob, joined network marketing. He was tired of socializing with relatives and friends who discussed and reviewed every negative story on their 24-hour news channel.

Bob wanted a new group of people to associate with. He looked for positive people who were moving ahead in their lives. Hey, if you have to live, why not live with positive and friendly people?

“I turned 18 and decided that I had learned enough.”

Sound like some of your friends?

Let me tell you about one of my friends, Alisa. She is different. For her, network marketing is all about self-development. Alisa spent 18 years of schooling memorizing facts and never once learned about the power and satisfaction of self-improvement. Now she starts every morning with 15 minutes of positive reading and her days are filled with positive experiences that she creates.

So many networkers have improved and changed their personal lives with the power of self-improvement. They read books, listen to CDs, and attend workshops while their high school classmates watch reruns of the television show, Friends. Guess who is getting more out of life?

“But my boss is a jerk, I am underpaid, my daycare ignores my children, and I hate the traffic going back and forth to work.”

I bet you have a friend or two who repeats this complaint every day. For them, network marketing provides enough income to stay at home with the children, and create a real family life.

You don’t have to earn a lot of money in network marketing to drastically change your life. So why don’t more people use network marketing to replace their jobs and create the lives they want? Well, they just don’t know. All of their network marketing friends are keeping it “top secret.” Hmmm, there is a lesson there for us.

“Okay, I’ve got the house, the car, the boat, the vacations, the lifestyle …”

Yes, some people take their network marketing business to the top level. That’s okay, too. I do know that when you earn more, you can give more. That should be a good enough reason for people to earn more than they can spend.

And network marketing provides that income and freedom for many people. That’s what makes network marketing attractive to people who desperately want to make a big change in their lives.

So what is right with network marketing?

A lot.

We provide choices and opportunities for people. They can pick and choose what they want out of network marketing.

Remember this: “It’s not all about the money.”

Yes, the money is fine, and you can buy some happiness with money.

But life is wonderful if you enjoy what you are doing.